wedding day ritual leader and blessing way
The first part of her unique contribution was in helping design the day’s activities. Her artist’s eye, her innate practicality, and her ritual-maker’s magic all combined to pull my raw, sketchy ideas into a seamless, inclusive, and wonderfully workable whole. Her vision of how the day could unfold was perfect.
Erica’s preparation for the wedding day was faultless. Skilfully and patiently, Erica created and facilitated an afternoon of beauty, fun, and spiritual significance for me and for the female guests. Looking around the room and seeing my nearest and dearest friends and family members meeting – many of them for the first time – chatting, laughing, and busying themselves, making paper flowers, writing wishes for me on dried leaves, and helping arrange my bouquet, brought joy to my heart.
One guest, a senior public figure, told me last week “I will never forget that day as long as I live, it was so beautiful, and yet so much fun.” She had tears in her eyes as she spoke. Several friendships have since sprung up between my female guests, and that is thanks to the special environment of intimacy and happiness that Erica created on our wedding day.
Prior to our wedding day, Erica suggested that I have a smaller, more intimate ritual with my closest female friends and family – a Blessing way. Again, Erica brought her wisdom, creativity, and her sensitive soul to creating and anchoring a wonderful occasion. She created a beautiful space in which everyone – from teenager to pensioner – felt able to share on the deepest level. There were tears, laughter, song, and of course, food!
I know as a celebrant myself how difficult it is to keep rituals on-track without breaking the mood. Erica kept a loving, gentle but firm hand on the tiller, always reading the group intuitively and well. I felt so blessed to be the subject of such powerful sharing. The greatest gift Erica brought me was that I was able to relax and enjoy the depth of connection with my loved ones, without worrying about how it would all happen. We were all in her safe hands.
I cannot recommend Erica Duthie highly enough.